Attendant opens up about personal life

[Deleted member 104635]

Has anybody developed a repeat customer relationship with an attendant who over time begins to open up more about her personal life after originally claiming she keeps business separate from her real life?

Is it a sign of anything?

Thanks

Gleaner

 

[c1000]

Is it a sign of anything?

Yeah it's a sign she is a human being.

 

[Hornet]

Yes I have. It’s a sign of trust if she opens up over time and you reciprocate by opening up in return. Most MPA’s will be more protective of their personal life than you will be of yours. She’s just comfortable with you and you can talk about real things.

 

[MrBnH]

That is what happens when you start a real personal relationship, often happens when people are this close and trusting to share more over time if they get along and have mutual respect.

 

[Jethro Tull]

Actually it is a sign of trust. Don't do anything to violate that trust and you'll be fine.

 

[Deleted member 104635]

I am just confused by the fact that she would put up these walls and then cross her own boundaries.

And yet at times she seems to want to rebuild the wall.

 

[Kw1389]

I am just confused by the fact that she would put up these walls and then cross her own boundaries.

And yet at times she seems to want to rebuild the wall.

It totally depends on how you carry the conversation. If she detects that you are not open to this type of conversation she’ll probably start shutting down. This time of year most of these ladies are here alone

 

[snoopdoggie]

I agree with all the above. But also, women love to talk, especially about things that are bothering them. Listening to them, being sensitive to what they say, and offering words of encouragement, is good therapy for them. I always try to tell them not to worry too much, because things will get better, and turn out ok at the end.

 

[cali99]

Has anybody developed a repeat customer relationship with an attendant who over time begins to open up more about her personal life after originally claiming she keeps business separate from her real life?

Is it a sign of anything?

Thanks

Gleaner

getting to know a MPA can be challenging…
my ex sw wife in la, gave me lots of great insight. But if you get sick in the middle of your MPA attendant session and she’s willing to go out in a rainstorm without an umbrella and get soaked just to get you some
pepto, you treat her like royalty!

and if she tells you about her military family in China… best you take things as is!

and then Your sw wife, gets her house (2 mil) stolen under her wings because she didn’t read between the lines enough from the pimps she dealt with!
best to Keep things very simple!

 

[superdick]

I am just confused by the fact that she would put up these walls and then cross her own boundaries.

And yet at times she seems to want to rebuild the wall.

Same answers bro.......trust does not happen overnight. She wants to but not fully there yet.
It will always be her call to continue or stop. No need to be confused. Go with the flow unless you are worried about your own feelings or the relationship morphing
into something you did not bargain for. On the other hand the service may increase......

 

[krayjee]

One thing you all have to remember is about 70 to 75% of these girls are here with no families, no real friends and living in rooming houses or basements and supporting their families back home. They are working at the spas 5 to 6 days a week and all they have is some co worker friends, no relatives, no boyfriends either. Some who have been here long are single mothers with young kids. So there were times they feel lonely and if they found someone they can trust, they tend to open up and talk about their personal lives. Pls be kind to them and help them as much as you can without taking advantage of them. Driving them to here and there on their day off is one I do most of the times and you won't believe how happy they're if you take them to Costco and such. I am dealing with them every day and I know what some of these girls are going through. Trust me, some of their lives are not easy as some of you guys think. Some cried alone after having a rough day at the spa cuz they can't talk that to anyone and don't want anyone else know what kind of jobs they do.

 

[Sajam Enjoyer]

I had a 2 hour session with an MPA who I never met before and after about an hour, she was telling me about her marriage, the tough relationship with her child, the child's father and how tough it is having the label of massage girl with all the nasty connotations. Whenever I see her now, I give her a long hug to say goodbye because she seems to genuinely be trying to improve her life.

Sometimes you just share a moment with someone because you are going through a tough time and you feel the other person is understanding. The walls can go up when things are going normally but as soon as stress and anxiety build up and she is spending time with you, a familiar and hopefully kind face, the walls can come down temporarily. My first girlfriend was the same before we got into a relationship. The emotional walls were always up until she couldn't go on being silent, then the floodgates would open and she would finally tell me whats been bothering her.

 

[c1000]

One thing you all have to remember is about 70 to 75% of these girls are here with no families, no real friends and living in rooming houses or basements and supporting their families back home.

Ahhh, Finally we get a glimpse into your criminal operations of Sex-Trafficking.

 

[Deleted member 104635]

This isn't tla lonely girl with no family from a foreign land she's Canadian born and raised.

I do know she has trust issues with the other girls because they'll turn on her and I've seen that in the strip joints over the years that it's a dog eat dog world in a cat house.

I did notice over time she changed from a scripted routine to going with the flow and also being more open and she knows I've seen her real self and I even admitted that I see through her facade of the wall of the mpa.

 

[Charli3]

This isn't tla lonely girl with no family from a foreign land she's Canadian born and raised.

I do know she has trust issues with the other girls because they'll turn on her and I've seen that in the strip joints over the years that it's a dog eat dog world in a cat house.

I did notice over time she changed from a scripted routine to going with the flow and also being more open and she knows I've seen her real self and I even admitted that I see through her facade of the wall of the mpa.

are you trying to say you feel special and think shes developing feelings for you ? its possible she is but she comes with tons of baggage or she is open with other regulars not just you , people are allowed to change maybe she tried going unscripted with someone else and it got her more tips and shes going to try this way now, there could be plenty of reasons.

 

[krayjee]

Ahhh, Finally we get a glimpse into your criminal operations of Sex-Trafficking.

You are poorly informed and not well read or educated from what I observed. All you know was CBC reports of Eastern European human trafficking rings. There are over 400 regulated Asian spas in GTA and none of them were forced to work or trafficked. Spa owners have to go on their knees to get them working for their spas. All the girls have their own choices where they want to work and who they want to work. They have better lives than guys like you and some of us .

 

[cali99]

are you trying to say you feel special and think shes developing feelings for you ? its possible she is but she comes with tons of baggage or she is open with other regulars not just you , people are allowed to change maybe she tried going unscripted with someone else and it got her more tips and shes going to try this way now, there could be plenty of reasons.

I’m sure, she does, develop feelings..
but does that mean she’s going to be your gfriend? No…., got to keep it simple stupid as I try to say to myself often!
yet, fail half the time.. ffs she has other regulars and maybe you ask her if anyone else sees her more than you? And she says, well, one other guy! She’s telling you!
maybe you go for 2 hour appts! 3 hours, 6 hours…. And maybe if she texts you every morning for 2 years at 4 am and you be seeing her aroma, lest ub Chilling!

 

[c1000]

You are poorly informed and not well read or educated from what I observed. All you know was CBC reports of Eastern European human trafficking rings. There are over 400 Asian spas in GTA and none of them were forced to work or trafficked. Spa owners have to go on their knees to get them working for their spas. All the girls have their own choices where they want to work and who they want to work. They have better lives than guys like you .

You're a comedian.

What exactly is a Krayjee?

 

[cali99]

And if your mpa, will go out and get you sticky rice, during the mid-session… come back, and finish the massage, then u just respect the woman! For life!
ffs I’m drinking again and if she invites you To the bar for a few beers! Yup, don’t hesitate! If she invites you for pizza, you go! If she invites you over for coronas… you do not hesitate, and pass GO!
if she invites you to her downtown condo.. Go ffs! You only have so many moments, that they invite.. please dudes! be observant, when she takes a liking to you!
and just go with the flow! And if she allows u to take pics… u best believe!! she has fucking trust in u!
all the best!

 

[Charli3]

And if your mpa, will go out and get you sticky rice, during the mid-session… come back, and finish the massage, then u just respect the woman! For life!
ffs I’m drinking again and if she invites you To the bar for a few beers! Yup, don’t hesitate! If she invites you for pizza, you go! If she invites you over for coronas… you do not hesitate, and pass GO!
if she invites you to her downtown condo.. Go ffs! You only have so many moments, that they invite.. please dudes! be observant, when she takes a liking to you!
and just go with the flow!
all the best!

i agree if they invite you to an outing you should go but don't go thinking youre gf/bf