I'm Bored. Here's a story from another site. What would you do if you were him?

[c1000]

Saw this story on Reddit. Wanted to know what you guys would do/react.
Fiancé(30M) found out about my(28F) college days, hasn’t talked to me in 3 days. Idk if this is the end?

I’ve been with my fiancé for 2 years engaged for 2 months. I can go on and on about how great he is but I won’t waste your time. He’s awesome.
Him and my sisters boyfriend have gotten really close over the past year and they talk atleast twice a week whether on the phone or FaceTime or just hanging out with all 4 of us.
Sister has been with her boyfriend since high school so obviously her boyfriend knows me very well. As well as my dating history.
Last weekend bc of the quarantine we all thought it would be fun to drink and hang out over FaceTime. It was a FaceTime double date and we all had a blast. Laughing, playing drinking games, we all partied for over an hour and that’s when I was over it and decided to leave the party to call my sister directly without the boys in another room.
Wel my fiancé and her boyfriend stayed on FaceTime and continued to get drunk together. During this time (I couldn’t hear shit bc I was in another room and was talking to my sister), sisters boyfriend goes and tells a bunch of stories about my college days and how many guys I hooked up with.
Just so everyone knows...idk the actual #. My first 3 years of college was literally one giant party. Without being too descriptive...I admit I was “excessive”. But at the time it was just what we did. I was single during that time and me and my friends...did a lot. With slot of guys. Most of them I couldn’t even pick out of a lineup. But again...I WAS IN COLLEGE!
Anyways, one of the parties I went to I ended up hooking up with 4 different guys at the same time. (This is relevant later)
My fiancé is handsome as fuck and I know for a fact he’s been with several women. We talked about our past a lot in the beginning of our relationship. I wasn’t 100% honest with mine and I can only assume that he was.
After everyone hung up, me and my fiancé were laying in bed and about to sleep when he just Calmly asked me “Did you get gangbanged in college?”
My response was “wtf? Why would you ask that?”
That’s when he told me everything that my sisters bf told him. He told me details I’m not even sure are 100% true bc again...blur. But a lot of the info was accurate and so I just told him yes. It was one time. He continued asking questions about the other stuff but the “gangbang” thing kept coming up and he had ALOT of questions about it that I answered the best of my knowledge.
Fast forward to Wednesday...things had been fine and normal sun mon tue. But on Wednesday...radio silence. He hasn’t texted or talked to me in 3 days. The breaking point was tonight when he came home from work and he asked me
“Are you friends with any of the guys on Facebook?”
Again, not lying to him I admitted that yes I was friends with all of them.
He left a few hours ago and I have no idea where he is or what he’s doing. I’m tempted to call the cops but I feel like that will just make it worse. I feel like garbage. I fucking hate my sisters bf right now but maybe it’s not even his fault, maybe I shoulda been more honest? I’m so lost. He is the best thing to ever happen to me and I’ve never seen him like this before. Is this the end? He refuses to return my calls/texts.

 

[UsefulIdiot]

Saw this story on Reddit. Wanted to know what you guys would do/react.
Fiancé(30M) found out about my(28F) college days, hasn’t talked to me in 3 days. Idk if this is the end?

Nice and messy. The sisters BF fucked up, that information should have come from the woman herself. For the fiancé to return he must love her warts and all, not just be in love in an idea of her. In most serious relationships there comes a point when you reveal your past and who you really are, good and bad. People might need a little time to digest and accept this information - we humans are jealous creatures. But if it is meant to be both partners will accept each-over as they are and were and move on. We have all done things that others would have a hard time accepting (I have been with over 50 different sex workers). It is much worse if the "stuff" is kept secret and comes out much later after marriage and children.

 

[snoopdoggie]

The sister's boyfriend should have kept his mouth shut. It's none of his business.

 

[Hangdai]

It’s the fact she’s still friends on Facebook with all the guys that gang banged her, that’s the thing pushing most guys over the edge.
He will forever think of her as a cheap drunk cumslut, not a future partner and mother.

This is where honesty by her was not the best idea. She should of just said it was a drunk groping session with two guys she just met and never saw again.

 

[UsefulIdiot]

It’s the fact she’s still friends on Facebook with all the guys that gang banged her, that’s the thing pushing most guys over the edge.
He will forever think of her as a cheap drunk cumslut, not a future partner and mother.

This is where honesty by her was not the best idea. She should of just said it was a drunk groping session with two guys she just met and never saw again.

I think it was inevitable that the truth came out. Better to deal with now.

 

[cupcrazy]

how did the sister's bf know so much about the gang bang history?

 

[c1000]

how did the sister's bf know so much about the gang bang history?

"Sister has been with her boyfriend since high school so obviously her boyfriend knows me very well. As well as my dating history."

 

[asiabuffet]

I need a photo of this girl please

 

[cupcrazy]

"Sister has been with her boyfriend since high school so obviously her boyfriend knows me very well. As well as my dating history."

wow she trusted her sister's boyfriend so much that she even told him about her sex life.

 

[snoopdoggie]

We all have skeletons in the closet and have to deal with it when they get exposed.
I can only relate to what has happened to me.
A long time ago when I was 30 and she was 28, same ages you guys, my hot gfriend, blond, blue eyed etc were dating for 3 years. Had asked her to marry me and gave her a very expensive ring. I had planned a trip to Vegas with her and her kids for a weekend. It was planned for 6 months, everything paid for. The night before our trip she cancelled. She would not give me an explanation. I was so pissed!!!!!! I went on the trip by myself and had a horrible time. When I came back 3 days later I tried calling her. No answer. So I left it at that and that was the end. We both never called each other. It`just was not meant to be!! But after 3 years of exclusive dating, living with each other etc.. you would think we were married! As I look back, its just as well that that happened because I went on to meet another woman who I had kids with. `So That 3 years with her was my marriage and it ended. In your case, he will most likely try calling to see if things can be patched up. If thats what you really want, answer his call. Be real with yourself cause maybe you still have that wild horse in you still...
Good luck!

Wow. I'm glad it worked out at the end. But that was cruel. Did your girlfriend seem to be alright with everything until she cancelled?

 

[Hangdai]

wow she trusted her sister's boyfriend so much that she even told him about her sex life.

I don't think she would of ever talked about it to anyone.

It's high school, if something like that happens, it spreads like wildfire.

 

[curvluvr]

It’s the fact she’s still friends on Facebook with all the guys that gang banged her, that’s the thing pushing most guys over the edge.
He will forever think of her as a cheap drunk cumslut, not a future partner and mother.

This is where honesty by her was not the best idea. She should of just said it was a drunk groping session with two guys she just met and never saw again.

I can stomach (barely) the fact that what happened in the past is in the past. The guy obviously can't control what happened in his fiancee's past, when he was not present.
But the fact that she's still friends with them on Facebook is what I find absolutely sickening. That tells me that she's still keeping in touch with them. If they're engaged, she should have broken ties with them ages ago.
Personally, I would reconsider moving forward with the wedding. If he proceeds with the wedding, this will haunt him forever.
Speaking slightly from experience here about SO's keeping in touch with their past, although my experience wasn't even close to the Reddit story.

 

[Hangdai]

It's a double standard I know. If I banged 250 chicks in high school, I'd be a hero, but if my gf did that, she's a cumslut whore.

I want Princess Diana on my arm in public, but crave DT Maggie action when I close the bedroom door.

 

[snoopdoggie]

Oh well, nothing you can about that. Things like that happen a lot. It's all in the past.

 

[imthedude]

We're not entitled to every detail of our partners' history, sexual or otherwise, and unless there's a STI that she didn't disclose, this guy is just being insecure.

But the fact that she's still friends with them on Facebook is what I find absolutely sickening. That tells me that she's still keeping in touch with them. If they're engaged, she should have broken ties with them ages ago.

I know that I form immediate and deep bonds with every last person I meet and am fastidious about staying in touch with them.

 

[c1000]

We all have skeletons in the closet and have to deal with it when they get exposed.
I can only relate to what has happened to me.
A long time ago when I was 30 and she was 28, same ages you guys, my hot gfriend, blond, blue eyed etc were dating for 3 years. Had asked her to marry me and gave her a very expensive ring. I had planned a trip to Vegas with her and her kids for a weekend. It was planned for 6 months, everything paid for. The night before our trip she cancelled. She would not give me an explanation. I was so pissed!!!!!! I went on the trip by myself and had a horrible time. When I came back 3 days later I tried calling her. No answer. So I left it at that and that was the end. We both never called each other. It`just was not meant to be!! But after 3 years of exclusive dating, living with each other etc.. you would think we were married! As I look back, its just as well that that happened because I went on to meet another woman who I had kids with. `So That 3 years with her was my marriage and it ended. In your case, he will most likely try calling to see if things can be patched up. If thats what you really want, answer his call. Be real with yourself cause maybe you still have that wild horse in you still...
Good luck!

So what happened to her? 3 years deserves an explanation.

I would have got the ring back. lol

 

[UsefulIdiot]

We're not entitled to every detail of our partners' history, sexual or otherwise, and unless there's a STI that she didn't disclose, this guy is just being insecure.

There are few universal relationship rules. Each couple is different. For some history is important, and for others the past is irrelevant.

 

[itstherealthing]

I don't get it
I would love a wife whose history included banging a room full of guys.
Who wouldn't want a wife with a sex drive that high........if my wife were a horny slut like that in the bedroom....I wouldn't need to be on this website with you guys and I would have saved 10's of thousands of dollars over the past 26 years of hobbying. What a total douche this guy it !!!

 

[c1000]

For me, I've learned my lessons. I demand every detail from a woman I'm dating. Not in the beginning, but when I know it's official I want to know everything.

1. If you truly care about a person, you don't turn your back on them not matter how much it hurts.
2. Women find comfort when they can let it all out to a man and he won't judge her.
3. I don't want any woman I'm with to with hold any secrets from me. I want to establish from the beginning if you fucked up tell me.

If you can handle that, you can handle anything.

 

[c1000]

I think when your with someone that long, you know if's it going to work out or not. This wasnt the first time something happened - I just simply left. didnt look back so to speak - went on with life - sometimes you just accept that there is not always going to be a rhyme or reason for some things and some things are better left unsaid...

You're a better man than I am. Getting attached to kids is a downer too.