Is dirty talk a benefit or hindrance?

[Dorf1701]

On occasion I have talked dirty to clients who have requested
this type of stimulation. To my suprise, it is not requested often and from what I understand, many a mpa's
are very shy about it. I use the words benefit and
hindrance because it relates directly to the exact purpose
of my question.

According to Collins dictionary:

Benefit: Something helpful, advantageous

Hindrance: obstruct the progress of

So, is it a benefit - (helps you in the final stages, increases
your excitement level)

or

Is it a hindrance - (dislike hearing dirty talk so much so
that it turns you off)

I think I have read, on massageplanet.net, if memory serves, that some of
you dislike it, it cheapens the experience. Is this why it's
rarely requested? Should I ask clients if they enjoy some
dirty talk instead of waiting to be asked? And, apart from
the usual dirty talk, the hardcore dirty talk, what are other things, in your opinion, that could be said/whispered.

 

[provider 8]

I like it when you guys talk dirty. It's especially sexy when it's unexpected.

I don't think I know anybody that doesn't like dirty talk.

Mind you, one girl (not an MPA) said "I want to see you sucking on a cock" That really didn't do much for me....

I guess there are limits to everything.

 

[Julio]

RS,

It can either be a hindrance or a benefit. For me it has a lot to do with how natural it sounds, who is doing it, the right timing, ambiance and to the what degree.

I wouldn't request it, because most of the time it's just distracting and often comical [in my view], but if the above criteria are in balance, it can be hot if initiated by volition of the MPA in question.

As for whispering in one's ear, the thought of it is hot in itself ... uuuh ... for me personally, it shouldn't be overtly crass or overboard and neither should it be too sappy [in the context of an MPA/ client], but it can be blunt : )

For instance, if an MPA makes constant references to her pussy it becomes boring and lacks mystery. If you think the MPA is the hottest thing since lava lamps and she restrains herself with such inferences, when she actually does verbalise the existence of her own pussy in some sexual context it's just so sexy ( uuuh.. I'm repeating myself, aren't I )

In short, if you're into the MPA and/or have built up a comfort level those intermittent moments where she utters something sexually specific will turn ya into a quivering heap of jello.

PS I thought for a second flyingdgn's reference to "you guys" meant massageplanet.netites.

PSS Oddly enough I've had both MPA's and [so called] citizens imply they are ... uuuuh ... would be turned on to see me suck another guy's dick or vice versa.

 

[~.:Just Me:.~]

It depends, as I believe that pool pointed out, on the circumstance and the moment that the dirty talk happens. In addition, I guess that we (MPA and client) would have to be 'into' eachother at the time.

I don't really mind it at all, and it can be a bit of a turn-on, esepcially if the MPA lookslike the girl next door and starts to talk dirty midway into the session. Just like corrupting an innnocent girl!

shakenbake, longing for a great session with the Red Stiletto............

 

[Panacea]

I LOVE dirty talk...

... but my own experience is that it's "hit and miss" at MP's.

I've never had an MPA initiate it, so I usually start off slow.

If I sense the MPA is receptive, then I turn up the heat.

I've had a couple of girls get noticably embarassed, and it seemed to throw the "tone" of the session.

Dirty talk appears to work best with NEW MPA's, where there's still an air of mystery to the relationship and you're getting to know each other. With regular girls a routine has been established.

It's hard to switch gears from "how's your son" to "I've been fantasizing about doing this, this and this to you...."

Of course, the risk to the MPA is that she's never sure how serious a new client is with the dirty talk. If a client says he wants to finish on a girl's face, and the MPA responds how much she'd enjoy it.... well, you get the idea.

The BEST dirty talker I've been with bar none was the Indian SP Celina, who unfortunately is no longer in the business. I'd threaten her with bondage, Greek and swallowing... to which she smiled and told me HOW she wanted it !

Of course, none of it actually happened but the experience was incredibly erotic.

God Bless Her

 

[Pompal 09.]

I don't usually even look at this section, but I saw the headline and couldn't resist!

Dirty Talk by SP's: Good Thing? Bad Thing?

 

[Jalaal]

If you have a good vibe going with the girl then Dirty talk is the best!

Just this weekend the girl was dirty talking and i just couldn't get into it because she seemed too mechanical.

The session has to feel...ummm...Fresh?
Like maybe this is not the same talk everyone gets?
At least for me.

Z54

 

[Randy F]

dirty talk if she enjoys it is good.

The old EBC style "Oh Baby" " Give me more" " You so good to me" makes me laugh during the act somtimes.

 

[I Cheetah All The Time]

For me, dirty talk is not necessary, but if the MPA initiates it, then I don't mind going along with it. I'm more of a 'do' than 'say' person, so my dirty talk vocabalary is limited. I wouldn't consider "you have a nice this or that" as dirty talking. Rarely do I initiate any dirty talk, because I've had a weird experience with it a long time ago (a year or two into the hobby). Here it goes:

This girl was new to the biz, and since the session was going really great, I decided to initiate some dirty talk to add more spice to the session. So I started off with a couple of mild phrases, and the girl responded by saying "You're so rude !!!". I told her that it was nothing to be taken seriously and it was just fluff. She finally settled down, and the session progessed on.

After that, I decided it would be best for the MPA to take charge with dirty talk. I still compliment them on their assets, but that's as far as I will go unless I know the MPA quite well, in which case I don't mind initiating some dirty talk as a 'conversation filler'. Plus too much dirty talk raises my excitment level thru the roof and makes me finish too quick.

PS: I also thought for a second flyingdgn's reference to "you guys" meant massageplanet.netites.

 

[Passion]

Was this RS?

 

[Sad Eyed Jokerman]

once, during the finish, a woman unexpectedly said the f-word ... "fuck" ... just that one word, just once ... and it came from nowhere, and it was a shock to hear, because it was so unexpected ... it turned me on so much ...

 

[superspooky78]

Love it... Except that it ususally makes me finish quicker... damn!

 

[iFree]

I would never call a client rude. Especially in that circumstance. That example is so far from rude in the
mp business.

 

[MichaellRunyon]

I'll take one of what Pool is having. Except for the PPS part. As I have dick-phobia, of others that is. For those interested, Goodtime jr. prefers to be fondled by good-look caressing MPA.

 

[kristina]

I can't believe an mpa would even mention two men united to a
client. Two guys getting in on would never, ever, even the
last two men on earth, turn me on. However, watching a man
masturbate in front of me....is quite the turn on. Two men
pleasing one women....happy camper. Man talking dirty to
woman....uh oh...I better stop here.

 

[Babe]

Love dirty talk!

Its only good if its something that comes natural to the MPA. If its forced or mechanical its a waste of time and actually takes away from the massage. Also its also the way the MPA talks dirty too. A loud aggressive voice, fake moaning is pretty annoying as well.

 

[livingdead]

Red S, goodtime ... ladies and gentleman ... brothas and sistas !

I don't really have dickaphobia as such. Well, I do and I don't - it's hard to explain. Anyway, the fact an MPA told me this wasn't a turn off at all - more like mildly intriguing and somehow the fact that she felt she could share this with me and I won't freak out held some merit.


I've always thought the image of a guy masturbating was uncool and kinda comical. Of course, the image of a female masturbating is hot and totally cool, so it's just one of those discriminative things. My point is ... what is my point ... oh yeah, I was surprised that females actually find this a turn on ... for some reason I wasn't surprised gay males find it a turn on ... what ?... I just know ... people tend to share way too much info with me. However, it really does all make perfect sense when dealing with sexually aware beings.

just another nonsensical after midnight rambler

PS Please, don't stop for my benefit.

 

[thatlaurengirl]

Sorry to get off topic but this is something that I have noticed over the years.

It's really strange but I have met more girls that want to watch two guys getting it on lately. (these girls are not MPAs but just girls that I know)

Just to set the record straight, I don't have dickaphobia but I also am not a dickaphillic person. My ass is a one way street!!

I have had a few girls that like to vocalize their fantasies about two men. I have had a few girls that requested for me to talk dirty about me having sex with another guy.

I have platonic female friends admit that they like to watch gay porn (their reasoning was because the guys are better looking)

I have had another girl that wanted to use a strap-on on me. (I said no) She also asked that I suck on her dildo during sex (I also said no)

A few just wanted to watch two men having sex and have a threesome afterwards.

I think the trend is gaining popularity.

I wonder what the attitude towards sex is going to be like in the next 10 years.

 

[Chelcie]

Sorry to get off topic but this is something that I have noticed over the years.

It's really strange but I have met more girls that want to watch two guys getting it on lately. (these girls are not MPAs but just girls that I know)



I have heard many women say the same thing. Whatever floats your
boat I guess.

 

[MORRISON ALDRICH]

I am with Pool - ditto!