Hi, Folks,
I want to take a few minutes to thank everyone that so kindly responded to my last post. The information I gathered from your responses was absolutely wonderful and the welcoming, supportive atmosphere of MassagePlanetL is greatly appreciated. I am very excited to have stumbled upon MassagePlanetL by accident.
In my last post, I indicated my interest in enrolling into a Massage Therapy school. The advice I received as a result of my post was invaluable. I am pleased to share with you that I am no longer in the “exploration seforum.xxxe” of things – I have since moved forward into the “action seforum.xxxe”. My vocational rehabilitation counselor and I have begun the enrollment process. Unless our plan is modified by her supervisor(s), I will be enrolling into the Massage Therapy program that Lions World Services for the Blind and American University of Healing Arts have put together in January, I am very excited!
Having said that, I have more questions! I know that I will get the information I am seeking, and then some. I look forward to the day when I can provide some support and guidance in return.
Without further ado, here are my questions:
1. ABMP or AMTA? Calm down, please! I know this question has been asked 13,456,954 times. Well, okay, I’m exaggerating, but, nonetheless, this question has been asked on MassagePlanetL several times. I have read, re-read and even re-re-read the pros and cons that were shared with the askers of that question. I can, confidently, say that I am aware of the perceived pros and cons of both from, at least, the members of MassagePlanetL. My question is slightly different, though. Is it possible to associate with both organizations? I am one to associate with more than one organization if those organizations can be of help to me in some way. An example of this would be my membership with blindness advocacy organizations. I am both a member of the National Federation of the Blind (NFB) and American Council for the Blind (ACB). Both organizations have the goal of advocacy for blind persons, but they do not approach their advocacy in the same way. In fact, in many cases their views and methods are in direct contrast with one another. I feel being a member of both gives me the chance to pick and choose my benefits of membership that may not always be available from just one of them. Is it flawed thinking to take the same approach with ABMP and AMTA? I realize from an included insurance coverage standpoint that there may be some conflicting issues, but aside from that, is there a problem with joining both? Has anyone done this?
2. When did you begin gathering your equipment and supplies together? Did you start before your first class? During school? Or did you wait until you completed your program? I want to make sure that once I complete my program and receive my state-issued license that I am ready to hit the ground running. I don’t want to sit around and let my education and desire to provide massage to seforum.xxxnate while I wait for equipment and supplies to arrive. What items would you recommend that I begin gathering together early on?
3. I am very ambitious when it comes to goal setting. More often than not, I set goals that seem to be much higher than I can accomplish. I do this purposefully. I find that giving myself something to strive for makes me more motivated to succeed and I usually meet my goals with little or no problems at all. My mind is like a sponge. When I find something interesting and feel drawn to it, I can’t help myself. I have to learn everything I can about the topic to quell my thirst for knowledge. I anticipate that school will keep me rather busy and keep my mind occupied, but I still want to exercise my brain beyond the required schoolwork. I realize this question may be difficult to answer without knowing exactly what the curriculum is at the school I will be attending, but what would you recommend for supplemental reading/study materials to my massage education? Books, videos and especially audio resources would be great.
4. I find that with every student in every educational environment that there is always at least one unanswered question or untouched topic in the curriculum. Reflecting back on your massage education, what would you say the biggest question/topic was that got overlooked (intentionally or unintentionally) by your instructors? When and how did you feed your brain’s hunger for the answer or knowledge?
5. While doing my research online, I am finding that there is a very fine line between Massage Therapy and Esthetics in some cases. The line seems a little blurred, to be honest. Where does Massage Therapy end and Esthetics begin? Again, don’t misunderstand me, there seems to be very defined boundaries on certain Esthetics areas, but it seems to overlap with Massage Therapy in some areas. Am I completely misunderstanding something? Or is there actually some form of overlap? How does one know if they are venturing too far outside the scope of Massage Therapy by veering into Esthetics territory? I realize that this will probably be covered in school, but I want to define some sort of boundary before I even enroll into school so that I can target my personal research to just Massage Therapy practices.
6. My family and friends are starting to get a little aggravated by me. They all say that my brain is stuck on the topic of Massage Therapy. On the other hand, my vocational rehabilitation counselor is extremely excited to see me so focused on what I want to accomplish. She says it is a clear indicator to her that I am moving forward with a good career match for myself. Is it normal for me to be so excited and thirsty for knowledge? Was anyone else this way before they started school? One fiend seems to think that I am obsessed in an unhealthy way. I don’t agree. My life is starting to orbit around the topic, but I am still very much in touch with reality. How can I assure my family and friends that I am just gearing up for, potentially, the best choice that I have made in life? I don’t think they understand. I have spent the majority of my adult life unemployed and reliant on SSDI for financial support. The idea that I am finally connecting with a career option and have a counselor that is willing to back me up is wildly exciting. Just to ponder the idea of entering into a career path that can easily make me self-supporting and self-sufficient is comforting. As I type this, I can kind of speculate what they are thinking. Perhaps they are expecting my endeavor to result in failure, or, perhaps, they are concerned about me “losing my check”. I am not so sure they have listened to me when I have expressed a desire to rid myself of receiving that government check. I want to turn them into a supportive group, but I think I have my work cut out for me on that one. Lacking the transformation from pessimistic to supportive, how can I, lovingly but firmly, let them know that this is what I want to do and that their nay saying will not affect the choices I make. Fly or flop I am on this path. Nothing will change that. While I value their opinions and appreciate their concern for me, I find that I get the “kiddy glove” treatment more than not from them. I am a unique, independent adult man. I need to fail if failure must happen. I need to fall if falling must happen. How else can I learn to live life? I’ll never learn as long as someone rushes to the rescue, or, in my case, tries to protect me from failure (or whatever) when they can’t even say for sure that their perceived outcome will be the outcome. I don’t want to push them away entirely, but they definitely need to chill out and cut the reigns. I don’t doubt my ability to succeed, and can’t understand why they would.
7. I haven’t even started school yet and there are a few people already banging down my door to let me know that they are willing to get “free massages” to “help me out”. That is unavoidable, I know. Seemingly, everyone goes through this. There is this one person, though that drives me nuts. The past few days I have been reminded of every little thing they have done for me throughout my entire life. There is no denying that their approach is geared toward guilt tripping me into giving them free massage. I have not told them if I would or would not “practice on them” and, definitely, have not indicated that I will give them free massage once I am licensed. Historically, I have been a push-over and tended to give people far more than I should have – emotionally, physically and mentally. Last year my mother passed away. Along with her passing, my “push-over syndrome” passed, too. I no longer feel the need to give more than I should, and, in fact, sometimes I don’t feel compelled to give at all. I know there’s grief and psychological issues embedded into my current line of thinking. I spent my life either in my mother’s care or caring for my mother. The ten years prior to my mother’s passing I spent caring for my mother as her health gradually declined. During that time I experienced a range of emotions from depression to anger to frustration. I couldn’t find it in my heart o tell my mother that I would not care for her. In hindsight, I did far more than I should have for her. It’s been a recurring theme in my life that I think directly links with the approach I took with my mother. Now that she’s gone, I no longer find being a push-over appealing. Having laid out that depressing little story, here’s my question. Is there a good way to tell this one person who is obviously trying very hard to guilt trip me into being their personal Massage Therapist without pay that I am not going to fall into that role? In fact, that I am not even interested in practicing on them? If I give a little, they’ll want the moon, and the stars and sun and anything else they can get their hands on? I try hard not to hurt peoples’ feelings, but I almost want to tell them where to get off. I would rather not have to go there, though. I fear that opening that can of worms will result in me saying far more than I need to say. Yes, they’ve helped me out with things throughout life, but that’s only half the story they are painting. I, too, have done a great deal of things in life for this person. I’ve left no debt unpaid and left no deed undone.
I realize that this was a very long post and that I asked several questions. Some of them probably silly, but, a question is a question is a question and all questions need an answer to be questions – silly or not. I just can’t find it in me to deny a question a chance to be what they are (grin). I look forward to hearing your responses.
--Bill
I want to take a few minutes to thank everyone that so kindly responded to my last post. The information I gathered from your responses was absolutely wonderful and the welcoming, supportive atmosphere of MassagePlanetL is greatly appreciated. I am very excited to have stumbled upon MassagePlanetL by accident.
In my last post, I indicated my interest in enrolling into a Massage Therapy school. The advice I received as a result of my post was invaluable. I am pleased to share with you that I am no longer in the “exploration seforum.xxxe” of things – I have since moved forward into the “action seforum.xxxe”. My vocational rehabilitation counselor and I have begun the enrollment process. Unless our plan is modified by her supervisor(s), I will be enrolling into the Massage Therapy program that Lions World Services for the Blind and American University of Healing Arts have put together in January, I am very excited!
Having said that, I have more questions! I know that I will get the information I am seeking, and then some. I look forward to the day when I can provide some support and guidance in return.
Without further ado, here are my questions:
1. ABMP or AMTA? Calm down, please! I know this question has been asked 13,456,954 times. Well, okay, I’m exaggerating, but, nonetheless, this question has been asked on MassagePlanetL several times. I have read, re-read and even re-re-read the pros and cons that were shared with the askers of that question. I can, confidently, say that I am aware of the perceived pros and cons of both from, at least, the members of MassagePlanetL. My question is slightly different, though. Is it possible to associate with both organizations? I am one to associate with more than one organization if those organizations can be of help to me in some way. An example of this would be my membership with blindness advocacy organizations. I am both a member of the National Federation of the Blind (NFB) and American Council for the Blind (ACB). Both organizations have the goal of advocacy for blind persons, but they do not approach their advocacy in the same way. In fact, in many cases their views and methods are in direct contrast with one another. I feel being a member of both gives me the chance to pick and choose my benefits of membership that may not always be available from just one of them. Is it flawed thinking to take the same approach with ABMP and AMTA? I realize from an included insurance coverage standpoint that there may be some conflicting issues, but aside from that, is there a problem with joining both? Has anyone done this?
2. When did you begin gathering your equipment and supplies together? Did you start before your first class? During school? Or did you wait until you completed your program? I want to make sure that once I complete my program and receive my state-issued license that I am ready to hit the ground running. I don’t want to sit around and let my education and desire to provide massage to seforum.xxxnate while I wait for equipment and supplies to arrive. What items would you recommend that I begin gathering together early on?
3. I am very ambitious when it comes to goal setting. More often than not, I set goals that seem to be much higher than I can accomplish. I do this purposefully. I find that giving myself something to strive for makes me more motivated to succeed and I usually meet my goals with little or no problems at all. My mind is like a sponge. When I find something interesting and feel drawn to it, I can’t help myself. I have to learn everything I can about the topic to quell my thirst for knowledge. I anticipate that school will keep me rather busy and keep my mind occupied, but I still want to exercise my brain beyond the required schoolwork. I realize this question may be difficult to answer without knowing exactly what the curriculum is at the school I will be attending, but what would you recommend for supplemental reading/study materials to my massage education? Books, videos and especially audio resources would be great.
4. I find that with every student in every educational environment that there is always at least one unanswered question or untouched topic in the curriculum. Reflecting back on your massage education, what would you say the biggest question/topic was that got overlooked (intentionally or unintentionally) by your instructors? When and how did you feed your brain’s hunger for the answer or knowledge?
5. While doing my research online, I am finding that there is a very fine line between Massage Therapy and Esthetics in some cases. The line seems a little blurred, to be honest. Where does Massage Therapy end and Esthetics begin? Again, don’t misunderstand me, there seems to be very defined boundaries on certain Esthetics areas, but it seems to overlap with Massage Therapy in some areas. Am I completely misunderstanding something? Or is there actually some form of overlap? How does one know if they are venturing too far outside the scope of Massage Therapy by veering into Esthetics territory? I realize that this will probably be covered in school, but I want to define some sort of boundary before I even enroll into school so that I can target my personal research to just Massage Therapy practices.
6. My family and friends are starting to get a little aggravated by me. They all say that my brain is stuck on the topic of Massage Therapy. On the other hand, my vocational rehabilitation counselor is extremely excited to see me so focused on what I want to accomplish. She says it is a clear indicator to her that I am moving forward with a good career match for myself. Is it normal for me to be so excited and thirsty for knowledge? Was anyone else this way before they started school? One fiend seems to think that I am obsessed in an unhealthy way. I don’t agree. My life is starting to orbit around the topic, but I am still very much in touch with reality. How can I assure my family and friends that I am just gearing up for, potentially, the best choice that I have made in life? I don’t think they understand. I have spent the majority of my adult life unemployed and reliant on SSDI for financial support. The idea that I am finally connecting with a career option and have a counselor that is willing to back me up is wildly exciting. Just to ponder the idea of entering into a career path that can easily make me self-supporting and self-sufficient is comforting. As I type this, I can kind of speculate what they are thinking. Perhaps they are expecting my endeavor to result in failure, or, perhaps, they are concerned about me “losing my check”. I am not so sure they have listened to me when I have expressed a desire to rid myself of receiving that government check. I want to turn them into a supportive group, but I think I have my work cut out for me on that one. Lacking the transformation from pessimistic to supportive, how can I, lovingly but firmly, let them know that this is what I want to do and that their nay saying will not affect the choices I make. Fly or flop I am on this path. Nothing will change that. While I value their opinions and appreciate their concern for me, I find that I get the “kiddy glove” treatment more than not from them. I am a unique, independent adult man. I need to fail if failure must happen. I need to fall if falling must happen. How else can I learn to live life? I’ll never learn as long as someone rushes to the rescue, or, in my case, tries to protect me from failure (or whatever) when they can’t even say for sure that their perceived outcome will be the outcome. I don’t want to push them away entirely, but they definitely need to chill out and cut the reigns. I don’t doubt my ability to succeed, and can’t understand why they would.
7. I haven’t even started school yet and there are a few people already banging down my door to let me know that they are willing to get “free massages” to “help me out”. That is unavoidable, I know. Seemingly, everyone goes through this. There is this one person, though that drives me nuts. The past few days I have been reminded of every little thing they have done for me throughout my entire life. There is no denying that their approach is geared toward guilt tripping me into giving them free massage. I have not told them if I would or would not “practice on them” and, definitely, have not indicated that I will give them free massage once I am licensed. Historically, I have been a push-over and tended to give people far more than I should have – emotionally, physically and mentally. Last year my mother passed away. Along with her passing, my “push-over syndrome” passed, too. I no longer feel the need to give more than I should, and, in fact, sometimes I don’t feel compelled to give at all. I know there’s grief and psychological issues embedded into my current line of thinking. I spent my life either in my mother’s care or caring for my mother. The ten years prior to my mother’s passing I spent caring for my mother as her health gradually declined. During that time I experienced a range of emotions from depression to anger to frustration. I couldn’t find it in my heart o tell my mother that I would not care for her. In hindsight, I did far more than I should have for her. It’s been a recurring theme in my life that I think directly links with the approach I took with my mother. Now that she’s gone, I no longer find being a push-over appealing. Having laid out that depressing little story, here’s my question. Is there a good way to tell this one person who is obviously trying very hard to guilt trip me into being their personal Massage Therapist without pay that I am not going to fall into that role? In fact, that I am not even interested in practicing on them? If I give a little, they’ll want the moon, and the stars and sun and anything else they can get their hands on? I try hard not to hurt peoples’ feelings, but I almost want to tell them where to get off. I would rather not have to go there, though. I fear that opening that can of worms will result in me saying far more than I need to say. Yes, they’ve helped me out with things throughout life, but that’s only half the story they are painting. I, too, have done a great deal of things in life for this person. I’ve left no debt unpaid and left no deed undone.
I realize that this was a very long post and that I asked several questions. Some of them probably silly, but, a question is a question is a question and all questions need an answer to be questions – silly or not. I just can’t find it in me to deny a question a chance to be what they are (grin). I look forward to hearing your responses.
--Bill