I just had another thought on the issue
Most people, men and women, are generally decent. However there are a fair number on each side that are not. In the course of 'normal' relationships the average person will perhaps run across a few bad apples but will generally not be affected that much
However when you multiply that by 100 (or by 1000 in the case of popular girls) of men that an mpa has a 'relationship' with the number of bad apples they know skyrockets. Protecting themselves against these bad apples becomes instinctive and the norm, even when dealing with the aforementioned mostly decent guys. And I'll bet that some of the 'decent' guys also turn out to be not-so-decent when the 'relationship' sours
tbh I can't say I blame them
Most people, men and women, are generally decent. However there are a fair number on each side that are not. In the course of 'normal' relationships the average person will perhaps run across a few bad apples but will generally not be affected that much
However when you multiply that by 100 (or by 1000 in the case of popular girls) of men that an mpa has a 'relationship' with the number of bad apples they know skyrockets. Protecting themselves against these bad apples becomes instinctive and the norm, even when dealing with the aforementioned mostly decent guys. And I'll bet that some of the 'decent' guys also turn out to be not-so-decent when the 'relationship' sours
tbh I can't say I blame them