Being in the hobby has led to all kinds of experiences and surprises. You think you know what you want but end up getting something different, often better. You want BBBJ but end up enjoying kissing more. You want to fuck dozens of different women but end up being intimate with a few. You seek out beautiful women, but have the most fun with more average girls. You resist making friends with SWs, but it happens and you enjoy your time with them so much more. Lies, disappointments, etc., happen, but it is the price of being open to new experiences.