found a good discussion from diff thread, thought to share it..
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Well, there are a few ways of going about it but I'll tell you one that won't land you in an embarrassing situation.
It's simple. You ask the masseuse 'what is the highest tip they've ever got?' This will tell you if they've received an absurd amount of tip they must be doing something special. No one just pays Rs. 5k for a massage. If they seem reluctant to respond remind them you have a large tip to offer. If they seem cozy with the idea of getting tipped with a large amount, you can introduce the idea of adding something 'special' to the massage. From here on you negotiating skills are going to matter. You are going to try and establish yourself as a reliable, trustworthy client that won't end up harming them in order get them to give you some extras. Being polite and indirect is the only way to talk about it. There will be a lot of back and forth on it but convincing them to giving you and extra depends on how you treat them and how you promise to treat them in the future. This is a huge risk they will be taking on your behalf.
You have to keep a lot of things in mind while approaching:
- These women come from very poor backgrounds, but they are still human-beings.
- They might not be aware of what an 'extra' is (or at least not willing to admit it until and unless you're an established client).
- If you're not an established client, you're trying to establish your repute with them through the process explained above.
- Some of them might already be giving out extras, but don't go in there with that assumption. Even if you know they do, you have to establish yourself with them first!
- If someone (such as this forum) has recommended you to them, don't go in there and start talking about where you heard about their extra services. They will completely deny any of it and might mark you down as an actual threat or harmful client. You wouldn't want that. Be smart about it.
- Discretion and secrecy is prime for them. Keep reassuring them that you will keep your mouth shut. Especially about their names, parlors and identity. Underprivileged backgrounds mean they desperate to keep their jobs and their employers fire them at the slightest hint of them giving out 'extras'. Think about it, why would you want to jeopardize your own hobby?
- Respect them as you would respect your friends. They might be helping you get your rocks off by doing the dirty deed but they still need to be respected like all human-beings.
- Lastly, don't push their boundaries. If they say they don't do X, Y or Z - then don't push them to do it. They can get you kicked out too.
Alright, I suppose that should help out a lot of folks here. I am sure there are better approaches out there too but this has worked for me a lot so I am sharing.
Play safe, play hard, share your thoughts and keep updating this thread when you find more providers.